If you think that this phenomenon does not occur often, then you are mistaken...
All the classically described greedy people were men, including Balzac’s Gobsek, Gogol’s Plyushkin, Pushkin’s Miserly Knight, and Moliere’s Simply Stingy Knight…. In general, male greed is common in the modern world too....
Women talking about the stinginess of their husband or fiancé give such examples that sometimes you don’t know whether to laugh or be surprised, but they are not laughing.
One friend, Tatyana, who married a Dutchman about eight years ago, told me that even buying a child a toy for 3 euros in their family turned into a real scandal, he was constantly angry about this and argued that toys were just unnecessary pampering and could be do without them...
He himself grew up in a large family of seven children and his mother did not spoil them with toys. 
And even now, this Dutch grandmother, if her granddaughter’s jam day is approaching, calmly goes to the nearest thrift store, buys a soft toy there for 25 cents, washes it, wraps it in gift paper and calmly comes to the children’s party, rightly expecting a treat...
But tell me, what can you expect from a young man who grew up in such a family?
However, over the years of their life together, Tatyana managed to morally decompose her husband, accustom him to good food and to the fact that children are something that you don’t mind spending money on.
Hank was very reluctant at first, they even almost separated, but now their second daughter was born, he changed and realized that he only lives once and there is no second in sight, it’s hard to say that he became wasteful, but at least he stopped for his children and wife huddle…..
If you come across a similar specimen, then first you need to find out the reasons for greed.
There are usually three of them:
Your chosen one is aware of lack of money, he or his family once had to go through difficult times, and now he is simply afraid of financial difficulties, so he is more tight-fisted.
You yourself are a good spender and he, as a rational person, noticed this and is simply trying to keep you from unjustified spending.
He’s just a redneck and he likes money for the sake of money itself, and besides being greedy, he’s also petty, notices everything and reprimands you for your carelessness.
Such men usually say the following words: slippers, vihotka, tubaretka, kalidor and the like..
My advice is to avoid these types. There is no way to correct it; in old age, such men become unbearable, and over the years of living together they completely destroy the psyche.
The first two characters are understandable and you can get along with them. Especially with the second one.
Let me give you an example:
A family lived in our yard: he is a doctor, she is a teacher, three small children. 
You know how much doctors earned in those years.
We called him Doctor Sharipov, he was Kazakh, by the way, he was an excellent doctor, as I now understand, then we all considered him an eccentric, I’ll tell you about him someday, he deserves it.
His wife, therefore, was called Doctor Sharipikha in the courtyard, she had children one after another and naturally, she spent more of her time on maternity leave than at work.
In Central Asia, all life takes place in the yard, that is, everything is in plain sight, no secrets from neighbors. Sharipikha constantly complained about her husband:
Greedy, doesn’t give me any money at all...
And she complained constantly...
Of course, I understand her, she was tired of sitting at home, constantly with the children, she just wanted to do some shopping, go shopping alone without the children. But what kind of shopping is there when money is really tight?
Meanwhile, the children grew up, and the youngest Kuanyshik went to kindergarten, she went to work, finally received her salary and moved to the neighboring village of Duket, there was a uranium mine and the shops were replete with imports and shortages. She was a pretty woman, tall brunette and noticeable in the yard...
My mother and I stand alone at the window and look:
- God, what is this?
The doctor’s wife is coming, and she has a fiery red wig on her head, we were shocked...
They sent our youngest, who was friends with their daughter, to find out what was going on, it turned out that Sharipikha had done some shopping, bought a faux fur hat, it seems she wore it again, then the children dragged her around while dressing up, so think now, should such a wife be trusted with the family budget?
After all, she didn’t care what she bought, she felt a thrill only from the fact that she was paying money, no, Dr. Sharipov was a wise man and did the right thing in managing the budget himself, because she could send her family around the world like that.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of such doctors, and young women are especially guilty of this, they don’t care about buying; the very fact that they are performing an act of purchase and sale is important to them, and why this thing is of little interest to them...
Another type of men are those who have known poverty, they are often tight-fisted, but they can easily be persuaded to buy an expensive car or furniture, usually such men always have money, but as a rule they know how to earn good money and after a while they relax and become more generous, but from time to time the past reminds itself of itself and they become rednecks, but as I already said, you can get along with them...
Pathological greedy people know nothing but money, they have neither shame nor conscience.
They have one god - money, and they worship only that.
Neither tears nor persuasion can move them to pity. These are the Judas Golovlevs.
Stingy people turn life together into torture. They have one concept:
When this will come later, they do not know, but they firmly believe in it...
I had a colleague Maria Petrovna Andreas.
A very sweet, friendly woman, cheerful and very pretty, she had a husband and two sons. As soon as the boys grew up, my husband became unbearable. Their eldest was in the tenth grade, and the youngest was in the sixth, because the boys eat a lot, he began to make scandals, she was a German teacher, and he worked somewhere and also speculated in books, they lived on her salary, he kept saving his own for a book, explaining that you need to save money.
In his free time, he went fishing and forced Maria to cook fish every day
“Galya,” she complained to me, “I’ve already become so smart that it’s simply incomprehensible to my mind, well, I hate fish!” I want at least chicken, at least meat!
The boys were growing up and one day he seriously announced to his wife that he intended to separate... Masha cried so much, the boys suffered, they exchanged a luxurious apartment, he divided everything, for example, they had 6 chairs, he took three for himself and three for her, in general, more that little thief was when they rushed to find no money in the book... He took it off in advance and hid it... He didn’t even leave fishing rods for the boys...
After the divorce, he got a Cossack in which he carried books to the market; the whole city knew him and he was considered the most prestigious book speculator.
But the official salary was microscopic, and therefore the alimony was worthless.
A few years later I came to this city again, the USSR had already ordered me to live long, everything was changing rapidly, I met Maria Petrovna, she was all blooming and smelling,
The Germans were leaving for Germany in herds, everyone needed to have their documents translated, but she is a real German teacher, earns like a banker, and she herself already has her documents ready to leave, in general, she left with the boys and their wives for Germany, she also has an uncle there some childless millionaire, he and his aunt bequeathed their entire fortune to her.
He stayed in Uzbekistan, all the Russians left there, no one buys books, people don’t have enough for bread, they say he hasn’t been himself lately, he lost a lot of money on his book... However, I don’t feel sorry for him... and Maria Petrovna is in Germany didn’t disappear, got a job as a teacher and can’t get enough of life...
Sometimes greedy men charm their chosen ones with their zeal and thriftiness, but soon this zeal smoothly develops into pathological stinginess, which is impossible to fight.
With age, a greedy person eats himself; nothing makes him happy. after all, all pleasures cost money...
His loved ones become hateful to him because he has to spend money on them, and this is worse for them than a pistol...
They save in order to accumulate, deny themselves everything, as if living life on a rough draft, they dream that someday they will become rich, but they never become rich.
My friend Trudy told me that her father dreamed of a Mercedes and said that when he had a hundred milk cows, then he would buy a Mercedes, he was a strong, wealthy peasant and did not want to take out a loan...
As time passed, the dairy herd expanded, finally he had 100 dairy cows, but a Mercedes, which previously cost 6,000 guilders, also began to cost 20,000 guilders, he began to save further...
He never drove a Mercedes, now he has fallen into senile insanity, sits in a nursing home and doesn’t remember his name... sad.
Trudy tells how others took out loans, bought cars and lived, but dad only dreamed, saved, never went abroad... life passed by, and he didn’t even notice.
Everyone who is familiar with the Bible knows the parable of the rich man, when the rich man sits, looks out the window and thinks that he will make more barns and he will have even more bread and he will become even richer, and God laughed at his dreams and said :
Fool, tomorrow I will take your life...
Live for the day, says Jewish wisdom... Although it’s not worth throwing away the money you’ve earned...
Remember the popular saying: A husband does not carry a cart load of things that his wife would tear apart with her sleeve. 
Greedy men are not uncommon in the modern world. Sometimes the realization that the chosen one is a “stingy man” comes to women late. How to recognize a “miser” in a man before starting a serious relationship? What is the difference between greed and saving? The information below will help you understand these issues.
The foundation of behavior is laid in childhood. A man copies his father, grandfather, older brother, uncle, fully or partially adopting their negative and positive qualities. Also, a little boy remembers his father’s attitude towards his mother, and in the future he will use the same model of behavior. If the father deprived the mother of something, then the future man will do the same, since such behavior for him is the norm, instilled in him from childhood.
Stinginess and greed, which manifest themselves in older age, are caused by the following reasons:
- Lack of money in the family. A man who has been accustomed since childhood to saving on everything, constantly listening to reproaches from his parents about his wastefulness, is predisposed to stinginess. Moreover, it is not at all necessary that a little boy will subsequently grow into a greedy man. Psychology notes that a person, having become successful and achieved certain material benefits, can be generous, but at the same time economical.
- Material well-being in the family. Boys, spoiled from childhood by rich parents and knowing that the “best piece” will certainly be given to them, are also predisposed to stinginess. In relationships with the opposite sex, such greedy men will be selfish. They will not spend money on their beloved, and they will not save on their own hobbies and desires.
- Greed of father and mother. Stingy parents instill greed in the future man from childhood. Here, stinginess will manifest itself sooner or later, even if the young man was not previously greedy.
What is the difference between greed and saving?
Some women do not separate these two completely different concepts. It is believed that if a man saves on his beloved, then such a man is a “miser.” The stereotype that has developed over many years is almost impossible to break. But it is worth knowing that there is a fine line between economy and greed, only by violating which does a man become stingy.
What is the human uncontrollable desire to possess money, things, and the feelings of other people in quantities that significantly exceed the norm?
Saving involves giving up something in favor of conserving resources. That is, a thrifty person does not waste, but also does not hoard his savings in vain.
Greedy men differ from thrifty men in that they do not try to protect themselves from expenses, but, on the contrary, spend money on themselves and their own desires, bypassing the desires of people close to them. A thrifty man will not leave his beloved unattended, even if he is experiencing some financial difficulties. Therefore, you should not confuse greed and economy, and you should not blame a young man for stinginess if, instead of a huge armful of roses, he presented you with a modest bouquet of wildflowers.
It is worth knowing that a thrifty man is an excellent candidate for a husband. Your family will not be in need with him, as he knows how to plan expenses wisely.
A greedy young man can never become a good husband. He will save not only on the woman he loves, but also on children.
First date
The first meeting with a man, as many women believe, should be memorable. Flowers, a restaurant or cafe, beautiful gestures, compliments - all this should be present. According to representatives of the fair half of humanity, a man must make an impression, otherwise he simply will not be able to “hook” his chosen one.
On the first date, it is quite difficult to recognize a greedy person, since the lack of flowers or money is far from an indicator of stinginess, but just a coincidence. Perhaps the man simply did not have time to buy flowers or forgot. However, it is still possible to recognize greed by noting several nuances in the behavior of the chosen one.
Behavioral characteristics of “skinny guys” on the first date
Greedy men will never allow themselves to offer a lady an extra cup of coffee. And after a hint, they will make a barely noticeable dissatisfied grimace. However, inattentive or ill-mannered individuals can behave in the same way, with the exception of a grimace.
In addition, a greedy man will not forget to casually or covertly mention that he does not have a lot of money. Almost any conversation will turn to a financial topic. But there are nuances here: a self-respecting man will not discuss his lack of finances, even if he is a “stingy guy.” The phrase “no money” will be heard much later, when the relationship moves to a new level.
As practice shows, stingy representatives of the stronger half of humanity, when paying the bill for the first time with a lady in a cafe or restaurant, never leave a tip to the waiter.
Another important point that is worth paying attention to is the way he looks at you while placing an order in a cafe. A frightened or heavy gaze indicates that your chosen one is a potential “stingy guy.”
What to do if you realize that your husband is a greedy person
It happens that after several years of marriage a man turns out to be greedy. What to do in this case? The main thing is not to put pressure on him and make sure that this is really a manifestation of greed and not economy.
Greed for money does not always manifest itself immediately, and sometimes a woman connects her life with a man, not paying attention to his shortcomings. His pettiness and desire to control the expenses of his chosen one remain unnoticed exactly until the moment she becomes his dependent. That is, as soon as for some reason a woman remains unemployed, the greed of her husband becomes more noticeable.
In this case, the best help is the negotiating table. Try to call him for a constructive dialogue or use the tips below.
Joint purchases
Grocery shopping trips together are a great way to show your husband the real cost of goods. Some men, not knowing about the price of a particular product, begin to slander their wives, accusing them of wastefulness. This causes a storm of negativity in women, and they, obeying an emotional impulse, call their husbands greedy.
What to talk about with a man at this time? Communicate with him on topics unrelated to finances, the main thing is that the information is positive.
Payment of bills
Calculate your family budget together. Don’t take all the responsibility on yourself, but don’t shift all the payments to him either. A man should see you as a support, a reliable friend who will support him in any matter.
If your spouse treats joint expenses without proper understanding, then in this case you can entrust him with one-time payment for kindergarten, housing and communal services, Internet services and other things. However, this must be done without any reproach, without provoking a scandal.
What to talk about with a man in this situation? For example, tell him that you do not have time to visit the bank to pay bills, and a penalty will be charged on the outstanding debt. Emphasize that only he can help you here.
Joint holiday
Perhaps your beloved man is simply tired of exhausting work and needs rest. Spend time with him, away from children and family problems. This will strengthen relationships and help survive a crisis situation.
Praise is the best panacea for greed
Praise your man as often as possible, do not hesitate to compliment him. He needs to feel love, he needs care.
A man needs understanding and warmth no less than a woman. To overcome the first manifestations of greed, it should be treated with a certain superiority. Don’t be afraid to slightly exaggerate its advantages and downplay its disadvantages.
A wife is an example for her husband
Be an example for your loved one, give him gifts, just like that, for no reason. Small pleasant surprises will not leave him indifferent. Do you want to make your man generous? Be generous to him.
Don’t skimp on your emotions, rejoice like a child, learn to understand his sense of humor. Remember that greed can be not only material, but also emotional.
Change yourself
If you really have such a trait as wastefulness in your character, then try to get rid of it. Avoid unnecessary waste from the family budget, do not purchase unnecessary things that you can do without.
Do you love your man? Then get ready for the fact that you will have to adapt to it. Changes in behavior and character will help change not only the attitude towards you, it will also make your partner want to change.
Never compare
When communicating with your husband, do not mention other men, do not use them as an example - this will only aggravate the situation. Don't tell him that he is somehow worse than others. Your man should be unique, the best and the very best for you.
What not to do
Psychologists do not advise directly telling a man that you suspect him of greed. It is necessary to bring him to a discussion of the problem as gently as possible, otherwise a scandal may break out.
When communicating with a man, at the first signs of greed, you should not:
- insult and humiliate him;
- scream, threaten divorce;
- start a conversation in front of children;
- force a man to agree with your opinion;
- Blame your husband for his failure.
In addition, it is important to understand what caused the manifestation of greed.
Why did the husband become greedy?
This question is asked by women who for the first time encounter an unpleasant character trait of their beloved spouse. The appearance of signs of greed is determined not only by previously hidden stinginess and upbringing, but also by the defiant behavior of the spouse, as well as other factors. Such as:
- accumulated unresolved problems in the family;
- sexual dissatisfaction;
- betrayal;
- hard physical labor;
- lack of understanding on the part of the spouse, her aggressive nature.
Sometimes women themselves provoke such an attitude of their lover towards themselves. Demands to buy expensive gifts and extravagance destroy harmonious relationships.
In what situations is specialist intervention required?
You should contact a family psychologist for help if your husband has not previously exhibited such behavior. A critical manifestation of greed is considered to be saving not only on your wife, but also on your children, as well as on yourself.
It is worth knowing that pathological greed is equated to mental illness, and timely help to a loved one is a necessity.
After you have met a young man once and realized that he is incredibly greedy, the choice is yours: be with him and accept him as he is, or refuse to communicate with him. In any case, you need to listen to your own intuition and feelings - they will tell you whether you made the right choice.
There is nothing more offensive to a woman than to be confronted with male greed. Moreover, in this case, a woman often begins to think that there is something wrong with her, that “she somehow attracts greedy men into her life,” or, even worse, that she is “mercantile.” Let's try to figure out whether there is some truth in this, whether women's desire for male generosity is natural, why men are greedy, and, most importantly, how to recognize greed in time so as not to regret your choice for the rest of your life.
What does redneckness lead to in a relationship?
The woman begins to invest emotionally in the relationship, cooks, washes, cleans (if they live together), gives the thirsty charity sex for beautiful words (often she pays for a lot), and in return receives neither comfort, nor support, and often - no status . Not yet understanding what is happening, she begins to feel robbed and irritated, closes down, ceasing to experience both warm feelings and sexual desire for the miser. Accustomed to only receiving, the thirsty person suddenly discovers that the stream of energy and unconditional love for him is drying up - and begins to take offense and make claims. Having received nothing in return, a woman who has energetically invested herself in the relationship is suddenly faced with a terrible truth - on the “other side” there is a demanding, indifferent boy, and for some time she has been banging against a reinforced concrete wall, which is cold by nature. As we see, a man who is stingy with money is stingy in everything - in love, in attention, care and emotions. But, alas, he himself does not understand that he is robbing himself...
What a happy woman can give a man
They say that if a man is greedy in his relationship with his woman, his luck will turn away. Why is this happening? The fact is that women's creative energy is much stronger than men's, therefore women's ability to influence events is also high - both their own destiny and the man who is nearby. If a woman experiences happiness and pleasure in a relationship, her man begins to be lucky - in a satisfied positive state, she literally blesses him for good luck and attracts favorable opportunities. Either a beneficial flow or a destructive one rushes through a woman to a man.
Wise men spare no expense on gifts for their woman, strive to protect her from any unpleasant work and surround her with pleasant impressions. They feel that a satisfied woman is the source of his luck. Moreover, it does not matter how expensive the gifts he gives - it is important that the man does it from the heart and spends a significant amount for him. Even if he is not able to take his woman to a luxurious restaurant, he will buy her a bouquet of roses or a bucket of ice cream to bring joy. The woman feels his impulses, this opens a channel of exchange between them, and everything returns a hundredfold to the generous man. The redneck does not understand that in the relationship between a man and a woman there is an equal exchange, and if it is violated, the system fails.
Why do men become greedy?
Traumatized men do not understand the need for generosity towards their women, and the roots of these traumas can come from their childhood - for example, when the family saved every penny, or the boy’s father was not caring and generous towards his mother. It can also be programs of his kind - for example, when one of your gentleman’s ancestors died of starvation and, without even knowing about such a situation, the man lives in fear of not being in the same situation. Ungenerous men are the same boys at heart who need a caring “mom with big tits.” Complexes and self-doubt can also lead to greed, when it is important for a man to make sure that he is interesting “on his own” and not “because of money.” For this reason, such “self-seeking individuals” are afraid to earn good money and block this opportunity for themselves. A man’s greed can also be caused by his distrust of women - such a man is afraid that these “mercantile predators” will spend his money (take away his energy) and leave him, and therefore wants to make sure that he is “interesting as a person” and not as a sponsor. Tough case, but let's see if you can do something about it.
What to do with a greedy man
Often at the beginning of a relationship, a woman can hear from a man a sob story about how his ex robbed him of everything. Girls, if she is not an out-and-out predator, and it all started out of love, think about what this “angel” did to her so much, what he had not given her for years, that during the divorce she considered it necessary to take away everything that was rightfully due to her. It is unlikely that you will be able to restore the “trust in women” of such a man with your “selfless love.” You are not a psychologist to spend your life understanding and treating his traumas. Also, if a man’s mother or father killed his desire to care for a woman, you cannot change this. It is unlikely that you will be able to restore self-esteem in an insecure man who wants to be loved “on his own.” On the contrary, you risk developing complexes - after all, if a woman feels energetic greed towards herself, her self-esteem drops due to the subconscious feeling “I am unworthy”, “they are saving on me” and, as a result, her feminine energy is blocked.
Very often, a girl or a woman at the beginning of a relationship strives with all her behavior to prove to a man that she is “not selfish” - she does not order too much, is afraid of offending him by asking to pamper her - and in vain! This is a real test of male generosity at the beginning of a relationship. Often a man asks: “You don’t love me because of money, do you?” Correct answer: “Because of the money too!” Of course, it is worth adding that monetary energy is an analogue of sexual energy, part of a man’s personality and his energy, proof that a man is in all respects Maybe. Any man will be flattered by such an answer, but there is no flattery in it - the pure truth. After all, you don’t need an energy impotent? Moreover, by showing at the beginning of a relationship that she does not need anything, a woman cheapens herself, lowers her worth and, thereby, sets the direction of the relationship. You have your own desires and needs - and you shouldn’t hide them or be ashamed.
How to recognize a greedy person
So, by what signs can you recognize a greedy person at the beginning of a relationship, so as not to allow yourself to be robbed later? You can judge a lot from the first date. The gentleman came without flowers and offers endless walks in the park and doesn’t even ask if you’re hungry enough to invite you to a cafe? Perhaps, everything is immediately clear here, and most women who value themselves will not give a second chance to such a lover of fresh air. If you are invited to a cafe or restaurant, pay attention to how a man behaves when ordering food - whether he laments how expensive everything has become, how he behaves when paying the waiter - whether he leaves a tip and does not count the change to the penny. If everything went smoothly in this regard, and you have only a positive impression, let’s move on to what the man is talking about.
Sometimes greedy men start talking about whether you could love a man who will work all his life in a low-paid job (for example, as a loader), but at the same time will be a good person. Here, perhaps, you have a reason not so much to be wary as to laugh - and what can you and such a “good man” talk about later - about a hernia? From the same series of fables about spiritual closeness and the importance of “loving each other for the soul.” Oddly enough, we live in a material world, and, despite all the desire, people cannot eat only the “fruits of love”. There is clearly an attempt to test your resources with the goal of using them later. Another thing you can pay attention to is that when money is mentioned, a man suddenly begins to “remember how he spent it before and how much he had.” This is already a more serious sign - the gentleman in the literal sense of the word may turn out to be a gigolo. If everything went well here, let’s move on to his actions.
A man comes to visit you empty-handed - girls, everything is clear here and without further explanation. Doesn’t he give you at least small gifts and suddenly buys himself an expensive item? A thirsty person from whom you should not expect either warmth or generosity of spirit. You notice that he is saving money by using your resources - here you are really being robbed, and continuing a relationship with such a man is not only unpleasant, but also costly. Many women may argue that if everyone is dispersed like this, there will be no one left, and that there are few men, and everyone is like that now. Not all. Sometimes you may be offered a choice of either raw potatoes or dried cucumber, but you want, say, pineapple. And, if you set such a goal, you will find exactly what you want. Even if it doesn’t work out right away. In life, as in fairy tales, it happens that you have to kiss a bunch of toads before you meet the prince.
The article tells how to live with a greedy husband. It describes the reasons why a man becomes greedy, how to deal with greed, and gives advice to those women who have chosen a greedy husband as their husband.
When a woman first meets a man, when she is going through a period of falling in love, she does not notice his negative qualities at all, everything around her is perceived as rosy, and this period can last for a long time.
Even if any errors are observed, the woman thinks that if the man is only hers, then he will become ideal, all his shortcomings can be corrected.
But if a woman notices signs of greed before marriage, then she needs to be wary so that in the future this quality does not become a reason for divorce. Unfortunately, recognizing a greedy man in the early stages of a relationship is quite difficult, because a truly calculating man reveals himself much later, after he has won the feelings and affection of a woman.
Therefore, many are concerned about the question of how to live with a greedy husband while married. It is worth noting that some men show this quality quite quickly. They can carefully choose products in supermarkets, ask the price, and pay attention to current promotions.
A woman should be very attentive, because if the chosen one comes on a date empty-handed or does not invite you to the cinema, but prefers to relax in nature, you should not rush to conclusions. Perhaps at the moment he is faced with a difficult financial situation, maybe he lost his job, but he is afraid of losing his girlfriend, so he is afraid to save the relationship by any means.
Therefore, it is necessary to understand what greed is, what kind of property it is and why it arises. In fact, greed is one of many character traits and can be inherent in both women and men. But the husband perceives his wife’s greed differently; he transfers management of the family budget into her hands and is glad that his chosen one is economical and thrifty.
If a woman hears the phrase, greedy husband, she immediately has a lot of negative emotions about this. These emotions arise because a woman believes that if a man is generous, then he loves and appreciates her, fulfills all her wishes, she thinks that her beloved will be ready to do anything for her.
When a woman hears about a greedy man, the following portrait immediately appears before her eyes: a rather curvy man, certainly with a cigarette in his mouth, who hides huge sums of money in his pockets, but at the same time regrets buying a small bouquet for his own wife. He constantly thinks why buy flowers if they need to be thrown away anyway.
It is interesting that many women determine the amount of love by the price of the gift; the more expensive they are, the stronger the love. But this is an erroneous opinion, and reasoning in this way is absolutely unacceptable.
In fact, greed or stinginess are exceptional personal qualities that can be inherited. For example, you can observe the members of this person’s family, everything will immediately fall into place.
It is not often that this quality appears after a person has experienced a difficult childhood in material terms or was given a bad upbringing. It happens that personal qualities may depend on the location of the planets at the time of his birth, in other words, on the zodiac sign.
Psychologists identify the following types of greed:
- Pathological greed, when a man constantly thinks that everything is not enough for him. The extreme level of such greed is hoarding. Most often it is caused by insufficient attention in childhood.
- Innate greed, as mentioned above, was inherited by the man from his relatives.
- Greed for others, but not for yourself. The husband does not pay attention to what his wife looks like and what she needs; he only worries about having all his needs met.
- Selective greed is a very difficult type of greed, when the husband strictly controls every penny, and suddenly after a while it turns out that the husband has a mistress who needs absolutely nothing. Such a husband should be abandoned immediately, despite his good qualities.
In fact, it is very difficult for a woman to make a greedy man become generous; you can try to slightly correct this quality. For this there is one condition - a woman must love her husband very much.
After all, she married him because she noticed many good qualities in him that covered all the bad character traits. Maybe he acts as a loving father and an attentive, caring man, a good lover.
Therefore, you should not focus your attention only on the material side; it is better to try to praise him for showing love and care to all family members. It is worth noting that the husband did not become greedy in order to cause suffering to someone; one must accept the fact that it is difficult for him to part with the money he earned through honest labor.
Only a frank conversation with your husband will help restore harmony and mutual understanding to the family. You need to choose the right moment, a calm atmosphere and tell him about your love, that relationships between a man are built not only on the principle of “take”, but also “take and give”. You also need to invite your husband to share his experiences and grievances.
He needs to be taught to share what he has. Let it be love, care and time devoted to his loved ones, while he needs to explain that sharing is not at all difficult. It is very important that this conversation does not turn into continuous complaints, but ends with kisses and hugs.
It often happens that a man is stingy not only with money, but also with emotional emotions - warmth, affection and care. This also needs to be talked about, because you rarely meet men who figure everything out on their own.
He needs to be shown the line between where frugality is and where there is excessive stinginess, you can even shame him a little, let him feel ashamed that a woman gives all her best to please him, but gets nothing in return.
In no case should a woman tolerate her husband constantly showing his displeasure about women who waste the money their husbands earn, while his wife engages in selfless charity, washing his shirts, preparing impeccable dinners. She has the right to fully demand trips to a restaurant, the purchase of things she needs, and even a nice ring for her wedding anniversary.
When a man’s stinginess has spread to all members of the family, when the wife wears only boots for the third winter in a row, and the children do not see sweets for some time, at a time when the husband managed to buy himself a gun and an inflatable boat, then it is worth thinking about whether such family mutual understanding and love. In most cases, such a person loves only himself, and cares only about himself.
There are also types of men who are afraid to make various expenses because they are worried about being left without any money. In this case, the woman should also act wisely by allocating the family budget clearly.
You can purchase several envelopes and put the words “Food”, “Repair”, “Rainy Day” and so on on them. Then he will be sure that the “Rainy Day” envelope will not be opened unnecessarily.
It is also necessary to know that stinginess of incredible proportions cannot be cured by ordinary conversations or remedies, like a cold. Only the help of a real specialist will be appropriate in this case.
Aug 11, 2015 tigress...s
